In the law of attraction, calibration often takes on a more mystical or metaphysical meaning.
It suggests that by aligning your thoughts, feelings, and vibrations with your desires, you can manifest them into reality, including attracting ideal romantic relationships.
Here’s an overview into its various parts:
| Aspect of Calibration | Description | Examples |
|---|---|---|
| Aligning Your Vibration | Raising your personal vibration to match the frequency of your desires. | – Visualization (e.g., vividly imagining your dream job and feeling the joy of having it) |
| – Gratitude exercises (e.g., listing things you’re thankful for daily) | ||
| – Affirmations (e.g., repeating “I am worthy of my dream job” with conviction) | ||
| Identifying & Releasing Limiting Beliefs | Detecting and releasing negative thoughts and beliefs that block your manifestations. | – Identifying self-doubt (e.g., “I’m not qualified enough”) and replacing it with empowering beliefs (e.g., “I can learn and grow”) |
| – Recognizing and addressing fear (e.g., fear of failure) with courage and self-compassion | ||
| – Healing past hurts and releasing emotional baggage through forgiveness or therapy | ||
| Taking Inspired Action | Taking steps aligned with your desires, even if small, to demonstrate commitment and create momentum. | – Researching job opportunities that align with your dream |
| – Networking with people in your desired field | ||
| – Taking courses or gaining skills relevant to your dream |
1. Aligning your Vibration
The common belief is that everything vibrates at a specific frequency, including thoughts, emotions, and desires.
Calibration, in this sense, means raising your personal vibration to match the frequency of your desires. This involves practices like:
Visualization
Vividly imagining your desired outcome and feeling the associated positive emotions.
For example, as you lay in bed about to fall asleep, think about what you want, visualize it in your mind’s eye as you doze off at night.
Doing that will raise your vibration to the desired frequency.
Gratitude
Focusing on what you’re already grateful for to cultivate a positive emotional state.
For example, stop focusing on the negative and find the good in every situation.
If you are behind a person that is driving 10 mph under the speed limit, instead of getting upset you could take that time to feel gratitude that you even have a car to drive.
Affirmations
Repeating positive statements about yourself and your desires to shift your mindset.
Affirmations are powerful because of the belief that you can speak what you want into existence.
It is found in every religious society in the form or prayers, songs and chanting. All are forms of affirmations.
2. Identifying and Releasing Limiting Beliefs
Calibration can also refer to detecting and releasing negative thoughts and beliefs that block your manifestations. This includes:
Self-doubt
Challenging and replacing negative self-talk with empowering beliefs. Self doubt is negative energy and must be dealt with swiftly.
Whenever you notice negative self talk it is important to speak words of affirmation instead so as to not block your blessings.
A great example is not feeling confident in your job. Instead of saying, “I hate this place, I know my manager is going to give me a hard time today”.
Switch up your thinking to “Everyone loves my work”.
Fear
Recognizing and addressing underlying fears that might be sabotaging your progress. We all fear something.
And that’s even true when it comes to relationships. Some of us fear being alone so we cling too tightly to our partners.
Others of us were not shown the proper way to love others so we may fear getting too close to our partner.
Part of your calibration is recognizing your specific fear and working on bringing your mind and body back in tune with what you truly want.
Instead of having a fear that your partner will leave you, tell yourself that you are a valuable member in any relationship and that anyone will be blessed to have you.
Past experiences
Healing past hurts and releasing any emotional baggage that holds you back. Our present self is the sum of our past experiences.
The good, the bad and the ugly. It is important and release the thoughts and feeling that bring your down and vibrate to a higher level.
For example, instead of saying “All men are dogs”, look at each potential partner as an individual.
Don’t bring your past pain into your present relationship. Make sure to calibrate your thoughts to a higher level.
If you notice that you are dating on a certain type of person, and those relationships never work out…re-calibrate.
By calibrating your beliefs, you create a more receptive state for your desires to manifest.
Differences between Calibration in LOA and Relationship Psychology
In the Law of Attraction, calibration puts the responsibility for your relationship squarely on your shoulders…not your partners.
In other words, if your relationship isn’t healthy it is because YOUR desires and actions are not aligned or “calibrated” together.
Because of that asynchronous relationship, that imbalance is what’s causing the stress in your relationship.
This interpretation is often criticized for promoting an unrealistic, individualistic view of relationships.
In relationship psychology, calibration refers to the process of adjusting your internal state and expectations to match the reality of your relationship. This involves:
- Understanding your partner’s needs and desires: Actively listening, observing their behavior, and communicating openly to get a sense of their perspective.
- Acknowledging your own needs and desires: Reflecting on what you want and need from the relationship, ensuring they align with your partner’s values and goals.
- Finding alignment: Negotiating and compromising to create a mutually satisfying dynamic where both partners’ needs are met.
All of those things are done to get on the same page and “calibrate” your relationship.
It is important to note that calibration isn’t a one-time event, but an ongoing process of adjusting and adapting as individuals and the relationship evolve.
It requires self-awareness, empathy, constant work and open communication.
Good News for Optimists
While there aren’t any direct studies on calibration and the law of attraction, there are plenty of studies we can use to infer the results.
Calibrating your thoughts, feelings and emotions are like being an optimist.
And constantly striving to look on the bright side of life isn’t just good for your mood; it might also benefit your heart health!
A recent study published in the journal JAMA Network Open found that optimism is associated with a lower risk of cardiovascular events and even all-cause mortality.
This large-scale analysis combined data from 15 different studies, encompassing over 229,000 participants.
The researchers compared the health outcomes of individuals with varying levels of optimism, tracking their risk of heart attacks, strokes, and even death from any cause.
The results were encouraging for the optimistic bunch.
Compared to those with less optimistic outlooks, people with higher levels of optimism had a 35% lower risk of experiencing cardiovascular events like heart attacks or strokes.
Additionally, they had a 14% lower risk of all-cause mortality, meaning they were statistically less likely to die from any cause during the study period.
While this study can’t definitively prove that optimism directly causes better heart health, it suggests a strong link.
The researchers propose several possible explanations for this connection.
Optimists tend to engage in healthier behaviors like regular exercise and eating a balanced diet, both of which contribute to cardiovascular well-being.
Additionally, optimism might help manage stress and inflammation, both known risk factors for heart disease.
Finally, optimistic individuals might cope with challenges better, leading to overall healthier lifestyle choices and improved well-being.
It’s important to remember that this research is observational, meaning it can’t establish a direct cause-and-effect relationship.
However, it adds to a growing body of evidence suggesting that optimism might be a valuable asset for your heart health.
While it shouldn’t replace traditional preventive measures like exercise and healthy eating, cultivating a positive outlook could be a valuable addition to your overall heart health strategy.
So keep your head up!
Calibrating to a higher frequency and embracing optimism might not only brighten your day, but potentially benefit your heart as well.
